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Ava Catori and graceful are rarely words used in the same sentence. But you know what, I’m okay with that…


Because when people think of me, they think of a positive, upbeat, and warm-hearted person. That’s not a bad thing, in fact, it’s a nice trade off.

I’m the person who tries to open a box of cereal or crackers and I end up tearing the box open instead of just opening it normal. I mean well, and I try, but somewhere along the way the box doesn’t open smoothly.

I try to seamlessly open an envelope and it rips. My husband laughs, because I have a magic gift when it comes to the ability to mess this up, every single time!

I think I have a reject button hidden on me somewhere, but I haven’t found it yet.

Anyway. One of the things that I wanted to talk about was perception and how we look at things. I could feel bad about the things that I am not, but I’d rather celebrate the things that I am. I hope you do the same.

There are so many things that people can do that I can’t. But you know what, that’s okay. There are a lot of things that I can do that other people can’t. That’s enough for me.

I think that sometimes we’re so busy focusing on our faults and looking for problems that we can’t fix instead of saying, ‘Hey, you know, it’s pretty awesome that I can do THIS. Maybe I should feel good about it.’

I’m here to tell you that I’m not the most graceful woman you’ll ever meet. It’s okay, my capacity to love and treat others well makes up for this.

And I laugh a lot. I laugh at myself, because it’s the way that you get through life, accepting that you weren’t built for perfection. I could pout, but I have more fun this way.

But, the way that I get through life maybe not the way you get through life. It’s okay. We all have our own ways of doing things. I don’t have to be graceful. I have manners and my etiquette intact when it’s appropriate. I’m not going to embarrass you or myself in a restaurant. No worries!

We simply need to really put life in perspective and enjoy what can enjoy. Some people are wound very tightly, unable to relax. I’m here to remind you that sometimes you need to allow yourself grace. Allow yourself the room to falter or fall or mess up. It’s okay. Life continues forward, and you’ll be just fine.

It can take a while to grow confident with who you. I get that. The older I get, the more comfortable I become in my skin.

Lastly, if you want to change something then change something. If you don’t then don’t, but don’t use it as an excuse to pout. Rather, celebrate your good stuff.