Midlife Buzz...thoughts for women over 40

What are midlife transitions? Are you a woman at 40, 50, or even in your 60s?

Warning: Midlife Woman in Progress…

Let’s talk about goals. In business, you’re taught to have smart goals, which are  goals you can measure. You set a timeline so that they’re realistic and in reach, and make sure they’re relevant to what you’re working on. It’s an acronym.

S.M.A.R.T. = Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant (or realistic), Timed (bound by deadline)

When it comes to goals, there are two types to consider:

  • Short term goals (a small step that can take you toward your long term goal down the road)
  • Long term goals (a dream that will take longer to achieve, but you’ll reach by creating smaller steps and goals to get there)

The sense of achievement is important. It’s fulfilling and helps build our joy and self-satisfaction. When that happy part of your brain is triggered, the one that says you did something, finished it, and met your goal…it leads to wanting to repeat that feeling.

According to Psychology Today, “…a region known as the orbitofrontal cortex is responsible for converting wishful goals into solid, automatic habits…” (Neuron/scientific source)

Let’s look at short-term goals and long-term goals and how they can help you finally make progress on your own goals.

  • Short-term goals (a short length of time, for example 30 days, upward to 1 year — Where are you headed?)
  • Long-term goals (doesn’t happen overnight…think 1 year to 5 or even 10 years — Where do you want to end up?)

First, let’s look at what’s realistic. If you want to learn to flap your wings and fly like a bird, obviously no matter how carefully you plan, it probably won’t pan out. And if it does, you can say “I told you, so.” I’m not one to squish dreams, but realism is important when setting goals.

If you want to be an opera singer, you need a certain element of natural talent. Training will only take you so far, then there comes a point where your gift comes in.

Now, if on the other hand, you’ve always wanted to roller skate or build a website, you’re in business. Whether you’re looking to start a new career, learn to knit, or travel the world, you’ve got something to start with. You can look at where you’re starting and the steps you have to take to get there.

Example. Say you want to build a website. Your strategy would be to educate yourself on how to do this, and then learn the process. Steps/tactics would include things like choose a domain name. Buy said domain name. Choose webhosting. Maybe install WordPress if you’re looking to blog…and the list goes on.. it might look like this.

The point being, you could easily create a road map.

  1. Choose a domain
  2. Buy a domain
  3. Choose a web host
  4. Install a platform like WordPress…etc

Just like learning to roller skate can be broken down into baby steps. I’ll tell you about my attempts at learning to roller blade at some point. I prefer roller skates, though it’s been ages since I’ve used either one.

Learn to Roller Skate

  1. Buy roller skates
  2. Find a safe, flat surface to practice, etc…

So, anything you’re looking at, no matter how big or how small it is, like running for Congress or learning to plant a garden comes down to listing out the steps involved, and then being honest with yourself if it’s within your reach. You may not go to the moon, but there’s always moon pies available at the market.

It’s all about trying. How comfortable are you with the idea of discomfort? How much are you willing to adapt or sacrifice to reach your goal? How badly do you want the goal?

Some small goals are great too, maybe you want to learn to make sourdough bread (do not eat my bread if I make it…I’m not a good cook), you’d go through the same thing. Nobody says you have to have massive goals, but it’s about finding things that make you happy and spark joy in your life.

Think about this…

  • What do you want to do?
  • Why do you want to do it?

What will you work on achieving first?